Friday, August 19, 2011

The Importance of Breastfeeding

Image courtesy of World Breastfeeding Week

Before I even start I want to say this: there are always circumstances that will prevent women from breastfeeding. I have not made it to my goal of 1 year with either child. There are some women who actively CHOOSE to not breastfeed their children when they are perfectly capable of doing so, however, and I hope to change their minds with this. I am also going to touch on what I have learned since Munch was born based on the choices I made with her that I will not make again.

Now, this is very long.  Probably a 7 minute read, which is long in the blogosphere :) I put a lot of thought into this though and included a lot of valuable information. I considered splitting it into two parts but ultimately decided not to, as although I know it will not interest every one of my readers, I hope at the very least the mothers or soon-to-be mothers out there will take the time to read this. I feel certain there are things below that you may not know - information which has an enormous chance of benefitting both you and the lives of your children.

It saddens me that the benefits of and importance of breastfeeding have seemed to fall by the wayside. Back in 1990, a declaration was signed in the US stating that of all contributors to an infant's life, breastfeeding was the most valuable. Because of this, major organizations around the world began to support natural feeding including UNICEF, the WHO and the Department of Health and Human Services. Even formula companies are stressing it's importance, but is it sticking? Really?? Ok ok I know, sometimes I can be Drama Blogger, but as I have said before - I will not touch on serious topics like this unless it is truly important to me. Breastfeeding is. So here we go...

Aside from convenience and cost, the nutritional, immunological, emotional and psychological benefits of breastfeeding should be enough to encourage mothers to want to breastfeed their newborn AND for all health care providers to strongly encourage it. 

While the nutritional aspect is hugely important, that which some think can be substituted, the psychological bonding that develops between the child and mother is unparalleled and does not offer any alternative. Unfortunately, due to numerous reasons many mothers resort to formula feeding as a substitute for breastfeeding. 

I have recently read of women not breastfeeding for fear that it is somehow linked to postpartum depression. I mean, holy smokes. NOTHING COULD BE FURTHER FROM THE TRUTH. The US Department of Health and Human Services Office on Women's Health discusses in depth that breastfeeding is linked to a lower risk of PPD in mommies, among other things. We have breasts for one reason and one reason only: to produce milk to keep our children alive. Honestly - think about that for a second. There is a biological reason women were given breasts. This fundamental fact alone should rule out any link to PPD. 

Yes, breastfeeding is HARD work. I think the amount of time and effort it takes is severely underestimated. It is no walk in the park people, even if you have an "easy" time nursing. The difficulty of adjusting to it, in addition to life with a newborn in general especially if it is your first, can create an environment of being overwhelmed on top of being exhausted beyond belief which - in addition to the insane hormones you have going on after birth - I believe is where PPD can start. So, it is not breastfeeding itself that causes or leads to PPD. Look at other factors going on around you and make necessary changes. {PPD is something I dealt with after Squish was born, so I researched and read until I was blue in the face and spoke to eleventy billion docs and midwives, made changes, and did not have a single ounce of depression after Miss Munch was born. Perhaps more on this another time.} Know that you will get sleep again! If anything, breastfeeding should be seen as a time to bond with your baby. Happy hormones are released during breastfeeding. Have some quiet time, relax {which is a huge key to successful breastfeeding} and enjoy this new little miracle you have created. 

I can see how mothers who decide not to breastfeed in order to avoid PPD feel like they are making the best decision for everyone, so I am not blaming them or calling them terrible mothers in any way, shape or form. I hope that they are inspired to do more research so that they bring breastfeeding back to the table, as it is really best for both mother and child in every sense imaginable particularly in the early stages of infancy when exhaustion is at its all time high. The immunologic agents in your milk help fight off bacteria, parasites and viruses - they NEED this. There is a reason early breast milk is called liquid gold.

To the sweet dear mommies who are desperate to breastfeed but don't make enough milk! Since we are biologically wired to nurse, if you are having milk trouble I would encourage you to look at your diet. Think about it - no other mammal on the planet can go pick up some Similac. If they don't nurse, their babies starve to death, which is not good for the circle of life. What do they eat? No sugar. No milk from other mammals {News Flash: cow's milk is for BABY COWS}. No grains, wheat, oats, rice, soy. Even just given the surface benefits of breast milk - acting as a protective shield against allergies, asthma and obesity, higher IQ children - I would think you'd want to look into every option possible to get your milk production up to give your newborn the best start in life. What mother's milk contains is still researchable, but the little we know says that it is a complete food for the baby with ideal nutritional values. Did you know that upon touching the nipple, the baby's saliva sends a chemical reaction to your milk ducts and actually adjusts the components {more protein, less fat, etc.} of your milk to meet its nutritional needs? That is straight from my lactation consultant. I'm sorry but that just floors me with amazement. 

The nutrients in breast milk come from the food the mother eats, so the first and easiest thing to address is your diet. Read The Paleo Solution by Robb Wolf. Here is a link to the book, and here is a link to a basic Paleo overview if you have missed my previous blog discussions about it.

Any mother will tell you that she has the hardest job in the world. Hard because of the TIME commitment. From the moment your child enters the world until the day you leave it, you give yourself to him or her. You give every ounce of your being to this tiny little blessing in your arms. Love. Breastmilk. And soon-to-be saggy tatas. Being a parent is total self-sacrifice, and the least of your concerns should be what your breasts end up looking like ESPECIALLY when not breastfeeding sacrifices the health of your child. Wake up people: formula is pretty much terrible. I cringe every time I give a bottle to Munch. 

Which brings me to my own stories with breastfeeding that I know you will ask about. Thankfully I never had any issue with milk production and made enough to feed a small country. I nursed Squish through month 5 when I began exercising again, and, unbeknownst to me at the time, I was not eating enough to make up for the calories I lost through working out to keep up my milk. He also ate like a horse which added to the problem of a decreased supply. I could not keep up and began supplementing, and by the time I kind of figured out what was going on it was too late. So he had milk through month 6. 

Munchkin. Now I will cry typing this. After I only made it halfway to my breastfeeding goal with Big Squish, I was determined to make it to the one year mark with her. Then I found out I had to go to Bali when she was three months old. Ok well not HAD to, but if I wanted to continue my clothing line into a second year, I had to go to create and design the fabrics, develop samples, oversee some production, etc. 

And I almost decided to stop working. I still question my decision to not take a year off.

I cannot even count the number of times Biz and I sat down on the sofa with me crying to him that yes I had firmly decided to give up my business because I was not ready to stop nursing. It was best for HER for me to keep going, so I wanted to. I was even pumping 50%-100% of the time at this point as we had latch issues {more on this below}, but I wanted her to continue to at least have the nutrition from my milk and if giving up my work was the way that could happen, so be it. 

I thought about taking a small pump and trying to keep my supply up at nights when I got back to my room and then again pumping in the morning, but I found out the electricity at the hostel was spotty, which lead me to consider a manual pump...yet with the amount of milk I made I would have been in so much pain during the day from engorgement I could not have accomplished any work or walked through markets for hours on end...so, at the end of the day, I decided to pump as much as I could before I left and went to the airport with a chest as hard as granite since I stopped cold turkey. This might have been more painful than labor, though off and on all the way to Bali I cried not out of pain but out of sadness.

I was gone for just over two weeks and still do not feel certain I made the right decision, as I put myself first. I just simply don't do that. It is not in my nature, particularly when it comes to my children. I mean it when I cringe every time I give her a bottle. I made my own formula briefly with Squish but couldn't get it to keep for more than two days. As with him, I just couldn't stand to give her Similac or Enfamil or anything with corn syrup of any sort in it, so I researched and found one I was happy with as it was whey based - kind of the least of all the formula evils - Vermont Organics. Up until two months ago, they used no corn syrup of any form, however on the new 6-pack I just got in the mail last week, organic corn syrup solids is the fourth ingredient. I was furious upon reading that. Make sure and take a look at the organic formulas also. Similac Organic captured 36% of the organic formula market in its first year of sale, surpassing the $10 million mark in sales, yet it is the only major brand of organic formula that is sweetened with cane sugar, or sucrose, which is much sweeter than other formulas. Sucrose-sweetened formulas have been banned in Europe since 2009! Sweet tastes encourage consumption in excessive amounts, which is exactly how breakfast cereal manufacturers compete. I think it's about time I start to make my own formula again.

Now - the whole latch thing. This is another reason I want to write this post. I pumped half of the time from week 6 on with her and nearly full time by week 12, which was honestly a bizillion times more difficult than breastfeeding, but it was the only way for her to eat for more than a minute at a time. Literally. Pumping left me feeling like I was missing something though - it was unnatural, obviously. I began looking into the importance of actually breastfeeding - the act of it, rather than just the benefits of the baby having the milk. Based on the research I have done, if at all possible I will let another baby eat one minute at a time rather than giving him or her a bottle full time, even with breast milk in it. Read on if you are interested in some sciencey stuff on this - you know me, I'm a closet nerd, I had to throw it in here.

Breastfeeding reduces the risk of OSA - Obstructive Sleep Apnea - among other things {like obesity and cancer}. We all know this basic principle: overall health is directly related to the ease of breathing. OSA is essentially defined as the cessation of airflow for greater than 10 seconds with continued chest and abdominal effort. There are similar signs and symptoms of snoring and sleep apnea as there are with bottle-feeding, excessive thumb sucking and pacifier use. The hypothesis is that breastfeeding reduces the risk of OSA, as infant mouths are allowed to naturally develop as they should; bottle-feeding prevents this given the manner of sucking and how it differs from breast to bottle. There is actually a formula that addresses this called the Stanford Morphometric Model - see, told you I am a nerd - but I won't bore you with that. "Modern, non-breastfeeding nurturing, is having a negative impact on our health and evolutionary destiny." - Brian Palmer, DDS, 1998. Very interesting this was said by a dentist, right? Someone who looks at mouths for a living, and has observed the immediate effects bottles have on infant mouth and throat development. Below is a direct quote from an article in the 1977 Archives of Otolaryngol, entitled Postnatal Descent of the Epiglottis in Man:

"Age group 4 to 6 months seemed to represent a transitional period from obligate nasal breathing to potential oral tidal respiration...this transition is important because it reflects a period of potential respiratory instability. Maturational descent of the epiglottis, found to occur between 4 to 6 months of age, is verified by cineradiography. This period, interestingly coincides with the peak incidence of SIDS, which similarly occurs at 3 to 5 months of age."

Bottle-feeding can disrupt this transitional period given its effects on mouth development.

And from Pediatrics, March 2000, Changing Concepts of Sudden Infant Death Syndrome: Implications for Infant Sleeping Environment and Sleep Position, "A leading hypothesis for a large proportion of SIDS cases is that SIDS may reflect a delayed development of arousal or cardiorespiratory control. When the physiologic stability of such infants becomes compromised during sleep, they may not arouse sufficiently to avoid the fatal noxious insult or condition."

"Data supports the hypothesis that prolonged apnea is part of the final pathway resulting in sudden death. Study demonstrated that prolonged periods of apnea can occur in otherwise well infants beyond 1 month of age." - Prolonged apnea and the Sudden Infant Death Syndrome, Pediatrics, 1972

"The fear that pacifier use might stand in the way of breastfeeding is irrelevant to crib death cases, because most crib death mothers do not breastfeed their infants...only 10% of crib death mothers do so!" {emphasis in original document} - Risk and preventative factors for cot death in the Netherlands, European Journal of Pediatrics, 1998

There is TONS more info on this, but to sum up: bottle-feeding creates unnatural development of the mouth and throat in infants ---> causes symptoms that mimic sleep apnea  ---> SIDS.  

Then there is bottle feeding and ear infections - there is a direct correlation between the negative pressure in the feeding bottle and negative pressure in the middle ear. The American Academy of Pediatrics states that breastfeeding is associated with a decreased incidence of chronic diseases such as diabetes, lymphoma, Chron's disease and ulcerative colitis as well. Research has also indicated that mother's lower their own incidences of ovarian cancer and premenopausal breast cancer, and reduce their risk of bone fractures from osteoporosis later in life. 

And the best for last: human breast milk also kills cancer cells. In 1999, Lund University in Sweden discovered that a component of human breast milk compels cancer cells - EVERY TYPE of cancer cell tested - to die. The killer turned out to be the protein alphalactalbumin, in case you were wondering. Their lab is the only non-American lab with American Cancer Society support. 

I will end here because this is insanely long and much more than I set out to type. Knowledge is most meaningful when shared with others. Women in this day and age face a huge predicament due to several reasons comprising social, work related, psychological and personal reasons that lead to preventing them to breastfeed their child.

I believe breastfeeding courses should be added to the curriculum of all health care schools. I believe breastfeeding should be encouraged in public places. I believe large corporations should have child care facilities for their employees and allow women at a minimum three breaks during the day to be able to at least pump in a private area, and also give them a place to store it. I believe insurance companies should reimburse families for breastfeeding support services. I believe there should be no obstacle in the way of such a beautiful blessing.



52 comments:

  1. Love this post!!! I breastfeed my son, and it was the most amazing experience of my life!!!

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  2. I think this is a very well written post, but I think it's dangerously close to being overly judgmental for mothers who can't or won't breastfeed. Ultimately, it's a mother's decision whether or not to breastfeed, and I hope young mothers reading this will do what's right for them and not be bullied into making a choice based on someone else's opinion.

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  3. The worldwide average that children are nursed til is age seven. I find that amazing and wonderful.

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  4. Brava!
    Thank you for this post.I have three children, two in college, one in 6th grade.As a 24 yr old mother I knew that nothing would keep me from breast feeding my children.I am 46 today and I can say that nothing compares to the feeling of deep attachment that started so many years ago and continues today.There are great economic forces involved in this subject (formula is a big money maker for pharmaceuticals)and women's need to work.The photo of the nursing mother is beautiful.

    Tery

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  5. All I can say is BRAVO! I breastfed one of 2 months and the next for almost 2 years. One of my sweet peas and I had a difficult time due to health issues, but I pumped for 3 weeks to give her the benefits. It's natural, it's healthy, it's beautiful and so good for them. My youngest is now 11 and I still get tingly in my nipples when I see a mother nursing..it was a wonderful experience for both of us. Well done with giving the information.

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  6. Thank you so much for tackling a subject which should be getting much more attention in our society. Your personal story and sharing of actual scientific evidence was beyond helpful. I hope other mommies-to-be, new moms, grandmas, aunts, and friends of women who have babies will share this, be inspired to learn more and help promote a lasting change in mindset in our country Xoxo

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  7. Sheridan,
    Thank you for writing this post. I was a little skeptical about what your take on breastfeeding would be. I was concerned that you would not be sensitive enough to the work-related and socio-economic struggles that many women face (i.e., having to go back to work after 6 weeks, etc). However, I think you did a great job of emphasizing the benefits of breastfeeding while also acknowledging the challenges. I am looking more into the Paleo lifestyle and have a question for you. Did you maintain it while pregnant? Did your doctor have an opinion on this? Just curious. I don't know if you respond directly to emails but, if so, I'm at rsotile@hotmail.com. Thanks again for your thoughts! -Rebecca

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  8. As a mother of 4 children, a wife, a woman, a boutique owner. I know how hard it is to accomplish balance for all sides of ourselves. I commend you for encouraging this. My youngest was just born 3 months ago and I had a conversation with my obgyn, and he told me NOBODY is breastfeeding anymore, I was shocked! Really? I think it is because we have so many other responsibilities pulling at us now a days. But this should be our ultimate commitment if at least for a short period of time. If I need to be a little less of a wife and mother or business owner for 8 months to a year than I need to do that. I feel the reason breastfeeding is on the decline, is because commitment in general is on the decline. You are so right, it is not easy, it takes determination for each mother and child. I suffered from severe pain during the first 3 months of breastfeed, toe curling pain, and it wasn't latch problems trust me! I consulted everyone possible, I was doing it right it just plain hurt. But somethings are more important than my comfort. I know this because I didn't get to breastfeed my oldest child. I pumped but never put her to my breast because she only weighed a pound and was in the hospital for 8 months. Let me tell you beyond a shadow of a doubt a mother and child cannot bond the way they need to if the child is not put to the mothers breast for at least those few first months, This may sound like I live way out in right field but I think there is a link to autism and ADHD because of the lack of bonding from lack of breastfeeding, but that is because of my own experience. All this to say thank you for putting this out there. Let's encourage others always, So Breastfeeding is a priority again!

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  9. Thanks for this posting! I don't have any children yet, but when I do, I plan on breastfeeding them. Your posting just reconfirms that for me! :)

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  10. Sheridan:

    This is a very informative post and I appreciate all the time, effort, and information it took on your part to put it out there. I was a mom who wanted to breastfeed. After latching problems, supply problems (that continued even with a high protein diet, tons of water, and 18 herbal supplements a day)and an infant with jaundice and a dangerous rate of weight loss, I had no choice but to supplement with a bottle. Luckily things worked out for us and we have a healthy boy who slept through the night at 2 months old. Sometimes breastfeeding just doesn't work out for people no matter how hard they try.

    You point out that not only is it so important if you can breastfeed to do so for the nutrition and immunity boosting it provides the baby, but that it is such a bonding experience. I agree completely, but I'm curious to see the male perspective on this...honestly. I know that fathers want what is best for their children and I'm not stating otherwise, but I'd like to know if there's any research done on the side of the father as to if he feels left out of this blessed event, he's scared that the child is going to bond more with the mother, etc.

    It's unfortunate that I've had one or two friends that as soon as they became pregnant, they treated their husbands like a sperm donor and meal ticket when they too are experiencing these things for the first time, just not as "hands on" as us women do. Even though I couldn't breastfeed, I was so happy that my husband could bond with our son during feeding time. It's my belief (and I'm not a scientist) that there's an automatic bond between mother and baby during the 9 month pregnancy process due to logstics, and I wanted so badly to have my husband be as involved as he could once the baby got here. I also wanted my husband to know that even though we had a baby, our marriage was still a top priority of mine and I was going to nurture it just like I wanted both of us to nurture our baby.

    Thank you again for this post and I believe if someone as the ability to breastfeed that they should know it's importance and consider it a priveledge.

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  11. Wow! Great post! I breast fed both my boys. Not for very long but as long as I could. Just kind of dried up one day. Not sure why, but looking back on it was probably diet. I am so grateful for that time though. It is VERY time consuming but when else can you just sit with your baby? I always loved those little cooing sounds. I will never forget what that sounds like. The sweetest noise ever. It is so important though to just do whatever you can however long you can. My boys never got sick and I'm sure that was a part of it. I have a friend who chose not too, not sure why. Her girls are ALWAYS sick not judging, but I just wonder if she ever thinks that might be why. Thanks for such an informative post! :)

    Jennifer

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  12. This was an AMAZING post! I so hope that it encourages mamas-to-be to breast feed. All mothers say they would do ANYTHING in the world for their babies health and safety... yet they don't breast feed? Doesn't add up to me. The facts are facts- babies who are breast fed are healthier than babies who are not- and have a more secure attachment to their mother- plain and simple. Is it hard? YES! Is it time consuming? YES! But wouldn't you make those sacrifices for the health and safety of your child? Health benefits aside- it is the most amazing bond in the whole world. Nothing beats your baby gazing into your eyes while they nurse and knowing you alone are 100% responsible for sustaining them. I nursed for 15 months....My little one is now 4 and I still miss nursing! It was one of the highlights of becoming a mother.

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  13. Thank you so much for posting this, Sheridan!

    It is so refreshing to hear a pro-breastfeeding stance from someone who is totally normal, successful and obviously a great mom! I have a number of friends who recently had babies or are expecting and I am SHOCKED at how many of them are deciding not to breastfeed at all because they either said it seemed too hard, was too time consuming or {and I can't believe a friend of mine actually said this} was gross. Um, WHAT?! You have boobs for a reason and feeding your baby with them is the furthest thing from gross I can imagine!

    Thank you for highlighting how it is truly best for the baby and if someone is concerned about the sheer vanity of it, then they are not ready for a child!

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  14. Several commenters have called this post overly judgemental. I don't see it that way. This is not an opinion or a judgement- these are facts we are dealing with. I don't see this as much different than car seat safety. We all know the FACTS are to have your infant and toddler facing backwards for a long time... yet I know so many mothers who turn their kids around early because it is easier and their children "fuss less" when they face forward. It's time we stop doing what is EASY as mothers. Nursing is HARD... formula is easy. Providing only healthy, whole, real food is HARD... providing processed crap and sugar is easy. We need to commit to doing what is BEST for our families... not what is easiest for us.

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  15. I think these posts are good and informative, but the people that believe that breast feeding is the only way to go need to proceed with caution about pushing this - especially on those that have not had children yet.

    I too believed that breast milk was the only thing that would enter my child's body. I did everything by the book, class and LaLeche consult, but I was unable to produce more than 8 oz/day. I do not have fond memories of those first few months because I felt like a complete failure as a mother.

    I think that those that can breast feed are lucky and I'm still envious 6 years later. But mothers should also know that it is okay if you can't. I have two beautiful, intelligent and healthy kids that were formula fed.

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  16. Thank you for talking about this. What could be more important?

    I enjoyed the privilege of nursing my precious daughter for 13 months. I only quit because she got so long/tall that it just seemed weird so I guess I "quit" for cultural reasons at the core (you wouldn't think it seemed weird to nurse a little person in another time/country). I counted myself blessed at every one of the 10 billion feedings because not everyone can do it and/or enjoy it. She is now 17 months old and has NEVER been sick (!!???). Nursing + very "clean" eating (paleo/primal with grains when I'm lazy or in an emergency...) = healthy daughter who sleeps deeply = time for marriage = bliss all around.

    Thank you, thank you, thank you for bringing an important conversation to the forefront.

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  17. I agree with Caroline. Very well written post but views on this subject continuously change. There will always be new data to support an opinion. While I can tell you feel strongly about this and that is wonderful, it is your opinion and everyone should do what works for them. Luckily you had a positive experience, some people don't have a choice and they shouldn't be made to feel they are less of a mother as a result. Just a thought.

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  18. I loved your post. I really believe that the more women who know the facts might try a little harder to breastfeed. I have 3 boys my youngest is 2 months and I breastfed both of them until age 2, my youngest I will breastfeed until he weans himself. Another plus for breastfeeding is all the weight loss just burning the extra calories to produce milk.
    Please keep writing these posts..i really admire your intelligence and inner and outer beauty. I would love to hear your thoughts on vaccines. I am at the point where i am really researching vaccines since my nephew has been diagnosed with autism. Please email me at lani@lanielizabeth.com if you get a chance!

    Lani

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  19. Nice post. To each, his own. Breastfed mine for 6 weeks, happy to do it, happy to stop.

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  20. Breastfeeding is natural and therefore best. However, what do you say to mothers who adopt? To mothers who CHOOSE to take a child from someone who is either unwilling or unable to be a mother, and raise this child as her own? How "terrible" is formula then?

    This was a well-written post; however, it seemed somewhat judgmental (as well as unfounded; for example, lactation consultants frequently give advice based on OPINION rather than FACT), especially from a woman who clearly struggles with the idea that she chose her career over breastfeeding. To me the most impressive mothers are those who "keep it real," such as "Anonymous" who said "To each his own."

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  21. Agree a little judgmental on the formula front. I tried breastfeeding for 5 weeks and dried up. Our doctor, whos a really well-known and respected doc in US pediatrics (Gary Spector if you care to know), said this to me while I was having trouble "breastfeeding and formula are like a Jag to a Lexus, of course breastfeeding is best but formula is just as good." His words and encouragement took so much stress off me. I have a healthy 2 year old who has been in daycare since she was 3 months old. Not once has she been sick other than the common cold unlike her 100% breastfed friends who always seemed to be out with ear infections, respiratory issues, etc. She slept through the night starting at 4 wks and has the vocabulary of a 3 year old. I agree breastfeeding is good but it's not the only healthy option and doesn't work for everyone.

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  22. Although I admire your passion on the topic of breastfeeding and the fact that you included data to support your opinion, I agree with Caroline that those women who can't or choose not to breastfeed will feel judged. I have 3 young boys and breastfed (nursed & pumped) all of them (#1 for 6 months, #2 and #3 for 9 months). I had many difficulties with #1, a major obstacle with #2 (NICU baby!), and other challenges with #3, so I am happy and proud I was able to provide them each with my milk. With that said, there is a reason I was able to do that and not lose my mind - I had a very supportive husband and extended family. We should all keep in mind that there are MANY women who do not have this support. I agree that the workplace should make it easy for women to continue breastfeeding, but the U.S. is not there yet. If we've been able to successfully breastfeed, it's easy to tell other women "you can/should do this too!" ... but we all have our own choices to make and plenty of healthy and successful human beings never had a taste of breastmilk. As for my own children, they had many illnesses (strep, ear infections, croup, etc) during their first couple of years at daycare (I was a full time working mom). Maybe they would have been worse if I hadn't breastfed them, who knows. To your point about body image and breastfeeding - can you leave room for the possibility that breastfeeding does not feel natural for some women? Or that some women choose not to have saggy breasts? These women can still be great moms!!! There is so much more to motherhood than breastfeeding. Again, I applaud your courage for discussing this topic and I believe you are writing with love, but I think there are many women out there who would find more value in your facts if they didn't come with a side of judgment. As a woman, I long for the day that we can support each other's choices, whatever they may be. There are numerous paths to take while parenting our children and many of them converge at healthy, well-adapted adults! What they need most is our love and understanding.

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  23. Wow- loved this!! Hoping it will influence some to give nursing more thought. I actually feel that this is a subject where data does not change at all. It is not an opinion. It is not a trend. It is not being pushy or being a bully. It is science. Even formula companies will readily say that they try to replicate breast milk... and come close... but that there are several key hormones and antibodies that they just can't replace. There are many agencies that collect breast milk donations to give to very sick children (and adults!). They want the breast milk because it is miraculous! These agencies have quick and easy access to formula... but know it can't come anywhere close to replicating the healing powers of breast milk. I would encourage people to read the ingredients on a box of formula. Scary stuff. I wouldn't want to pump a tiny, fragile new system full of artificially engineered chemicals. I usually try to steer clear of "hot topics", but this one is just too important. We are talking about the health of our babies! We live in a world of convenience and are always looking for quick fixes. When it comes to your babies health- it is well worth the extra time and effort.

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  24. Let me start off by saying that I love your blog, and love it even more because I live in Fort Worth. Yes this post is your opinion, and you are entitled to it. However, you saying that "formula is terrible" and "not breastfeeding sacrifices the health of your child" is simply not true in my opinion. My 15 month old twins were formula fed and have only had one cold each, and my son has only had one ear infection (so far so good with my daughter).

    You say that you understand that some women simply can't breastfeed. Does that mean that it's okay for us to give our kids "terrible" formula, but if a mom chooses to not breastfeed, that's not okay? In regards to the bonding issue...I can tell you that I have just as strong a bond with my twins as any other mom does with their child, and not only did I not breastfeed them, but I didn't carry them either!

    I was diagnosed with breast cancer at the age of 27, and before I started chemo my husband (fiance at the time) and I did IVF and froze 3 embryos. I later found out that due to my cancer being estrogen/progesterone positive, it was not a good idea for me to carry my own children. My embryos were frozen for 2.5 years before we were ready to have them. Lucky for me one of my best friends volunteered to carry them for me. She carried them to 36 weeks and they were (and are) 100% healthy. So let me just say that carrying them or breastfeeding them is not the only way to bond with your babies.

    I am 32 now and have b/g twins who truly are miracles. The odds were against them being here, let alone being healthy. Please just be mindful of those of us that had no choice but to give our children formula when you bash it and tell people how awful it is. Oh and just for the record, I was breastfed as a child, and still got cancer, as was my mom who got breast cancer 2 years after I did (and no we don't have the gene).

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  25. Wow, my hero is the commenter who said, 'To me the most impressive mothers are those who "keep it real," such as "Anonymous" who said "To each his own."' I nursed for eight months and you would have thought (via every doctor, friend, co-worker, family member) that I decided to give her poison for those last four months before she turned one. I'm so happy you had such a bonding experience, Sheridan, truly, what an amazing blessing--but believe me--this particular passion of yours is not unique. Breastfeeding is pushed more intensely than anything I have ever experienced, from everyone you meet on your journey with pregnancy. As if we don't place enough judgment on ourselves as mothers already. If I have another child I will definitely breastfeed her (or try to, who know what the future holds) but this issue is not a hill to die on. No one knows what another mother's situation is and the women who didn't do it probably feel ostracized enough already.

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  26. Love your blog! I am breastfeeding my first born who is now 4.5 months. After the first 6 weeks I began pumping one bottle a day so that my husband could experience feeding him. It means so much to him to be able to feed him his bedtime bottle and put him to bed. I wanted to share with him the amazing experience I get when feeding our precious baby. It is such a gift to be able to have that bonding time. Now our baby boy is eating so much more I am having a hard time keeping up with the amount of milk he is drinking. I have started giving him formula once and awhile and I hate it. So many times I have wanted to quit breastfeeding but then I look at my baby and think to myself, how could I not do what is best for my child? I have had this mental struggle over to give him formula or not. I have been thinking of fading out breastfeeding because of lack of production. But this post came at the right time and has inspired me to keep breastfeeding!
    Thank you for your encouraging words!

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  27. I went to the moon and back trying to have a good breastfeeding relationship with my son. I had an overstock supply but he had latch issues and a very passionate little personality that resulted in him screaming/me crying as I tried to feed him for literally hours on end. That is only the tip of the iceberg. It was not the dreamy scenario that so many paint the picture of. It was stress on top of insecurity on top of sleep deprivation - not the ideal situation for a first time mom with a workaholic husband and no family nearby. Those first two months were a fog for me of stressing out about how the next nursing session would go and feeling like I was an inadequate mother. I had a perfect pregnancy, went into labor naturally and had a "textbook" delivery, and to have the nursing not work out just killed me. I put so much pressure on myself and when I finally quit at two months, I turned back into the confident "me" who was now a mom. I never felt my bond change with my son, and in fact, I felt it stronger once I removed myself from the equation and was no longer to blame for him having trouble getting milk.

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  28. FYI: According to a recent study, it isn't breastfeeding that causes sagging breasts, but the hormonal changes that occur during pregnancy and shortly after childbirth. You can see an article here:

    http://thetruthaboutbreastfeeding.com/category/research/ptosis-sagging/

    I would also like to add my personal opinion that breasts aren't really supposed to look like two firm domes on your chest, though the prevalence of plastic surgery in the US has somewhat skewed the cultural norms... In any event, if your breasts do resemble "tube socks" (which I rather doubt, actually), you can find some solace in the fact that they probably would have looked that way with or without the breastfeeding.

    I would also like to say that the biggest obstacle to women breastfeeding may be the negative reactions to doing so in public. Often a woman faces the choice of being housebound, or being made to feel embarrassed for nursing in public. It can be extremely isolating. I would have to think that changing that would dramatically improve breastfeeding rates.

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  29. While I appreciate your post and the work you put into writing it, I found it to be quite judgmental. The last thing that a new mother or mother-to-be needs is guilt over their decision whether or not to breastfeed. Judgement on others' decisions is a dangerous thing and is often based on ignorance or lack of knowledge of each individual's situation.

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  30. So happy that you pointed out the diet/breastfeeding connection. No one wants to act like this is an issue! Even though I knew I needed to keep my calories up, as I recovered from a c-section, began exercising again, and then WORK... well, let's just say I must not have been taking enough in. I was sooooo sad when my supply dwindled at 5mos. I also had a difficult time finding a formula sans corn syrup but luckily did. I am looking forward to trying it again someday and this time will be much more patient and considerate to my self for the sake of the baby. Thanks again for sharing!

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  31. You just made me one very proud momma! I have breastfeed all 5 of my babies. If that is the only thing I contribute to this earth , I would feel accomplished. For the record , I have nursed on and off for seventeen years . My breasts are shriveled up lemons in plastic baggies but they are really golden trophies, ha! Thank you !

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  32. Breast is definitely best and I think that women should get all of the information so that they chose to breastfeed. My daughter would not latch on so I pumped for a few months. I was so exhausted and depleted. As you know when you pump and you wake up every two and a half hours throughout the night to a screaming baby not only do you have to feed your baby but, then you have to pump too. Eventually my husband, family and pediatrician said that me being stressed out and tired was worse for my daughter than giving her formula. As soon as I got over the horrible guilt of giving her formula I was a new person and I started enjoying my daughter and bonding with her more. I think you are doing a great thing by helping educate women about something so important but, try to not come from a place of anger and judgement and instead support and nurture women in general.

    By the way, your texting post really made an impression on me. I never texted while I was driving but, I did talk on my phone. Now I wait until I am not driving to make or receive a call. Well done.

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  33. I think this is a well-written post, Sheridan, and one that has obviously stirred-up some emotions in readers.

    It seems that some of the more agitated commenters missed your own humble admission, which, for me, was the center of your essay --- specifically, that your lifestyle choices (a limited diet/exercise routine with baby one; and a job opportunity with baby two) are sources of guilt for you, and that you wish you had reached your own goals of breastfeeding each little one for a solid year.

    I think too many of us read your entry too quickly -- and perhaps the passionate tone and scholarly bent of your essay somewhat eclipsed the personal experiences that you shared . . . which spoke, w/ transparency, of disappointment and self-judgment . . .

    As women, I do think we have to be careful in the messages we send --- we need to support one another as much as possible. Lord knows we already have enough self-judgment and guilt to carry around already.

    Society (in a microcosm, this blog) sends us mixed messages about being the "ideal" woman and mother. Who do we want to be? To use the paradoxical images you put forth, do we want to be the impossibly thin Angelina Jolie, traveling the world w/ infants, or the "earth" mother nursing two toddlers?

    Most of us cannot be both.

    Your children are gorgeous and lucky to have such a creative, contemplative mom--- !!!

    Kay

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  34. Thank you so much for this post! I am a firm supporter of breastfeeding....nursed my first son right through my second pregnancy, and ended up nursing both of them for a few months! Now son number two is still going strong at 22 months :) I think it's a very sensitive subject for a lot of people, especially those who have done everything to try and make more/enough milk. It would absolutely break my heart if I wasn't able to breastfeed. You did a great job of getting the benefits out there, and if people are taking offence, then they are the ones with the problem. There is absolutely no argument that breastmilk is far superior to formula, in every way. Any doctor that will tell you otherwise is an idiot. But, having said that, it doesn't necessarily mean that formula is awful for babies! There are millions of healthy formula-fed babies out there...thank goodness! But it's still a manmade, highly processed product that is not "tailor-made" for the individual baby's needs. That's a fact. It does NOT make you a bad mother for feeding your baby formula...not even close...but it makes me sad when moms are convinced that it's just as good as breastmilk, and therefore make the choice to not breastfeed. It's a completely different story if you're having a hard time producing enough milk, or have some sort of health problem that hinders breastfeeding.

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  35. Excellent post! Great information! I breastfed for 17 months. That sounds like a lot, but truthfully once my daughter turned 13 months it was reduced to one nightly feeding a day. I know I was especially blessed to breastfeed, not just because I could, but because I was able to not work that first year. This was due to family support. Had I reported back to work after eight weeks, I'm not sure that my milk supply could've endured.

    The first two months were difficult to get the hang of nursing, but I prepared, studied, took a class before my baby was born and even made an appointment with a lactation consultant after her birth. It's due diligence. It wasn't easy, but it eventually became so and I'm so proud of myself for sticking with it.

    You touched on exercise affecting your supply. I read about that somewhere also and instead of rushing back into a get fit routine, I just took walks in the evening with my baby. I didn't want anything compromising her milk supply. My thought, I can always get fit later, which I did.

    Lastly, I hate that breastfeeding is such a controversial issue. I hear so much from the non-breastfeeders that there is judgment. Well, we breastfeeders are judged also for being nursing nazis.

    My wish is that nursing would be the first option considered, explored and tried for at least the baby's first six weeks. A decision could be made at that point if it really fits the mother's lifestyle, but to just negate something off the bat and mostly for vanity or convenience. I find it really hard to support that. Granted, we all know there are special circumstances with each mother and child, but for those that aren't in special circumstances, does it really hurt to try. And beyond that, I really wish employers supported nursing as well. Yes, many of us have to work, so it seems very unfair that women who want to nurse but also continue to contribute to the household must make the sacrifice as the expense of the child's nutrition.

    Again, great post. I enjoy your blog greatly!

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  36. Beautiful and important post. I'm currently pregnant with my second child and plan to breastfeed him like I did with my Lilly. She breastfed solely for the first 6 months, then I started supplementing with some formala (similac organic- hating reading that part about the sugar!!). She weaned at 9 months. Breastfeeding may have been the hardest thing I've ever done (for the first 3 months anyway) but there is nothing more that I am proud of than doing my best for my child.

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  37. With this post you are gaining fans and losing fans, unfortunately. I admire you for feeling so strongly about something. But to call formula terrible?? That is pretty harsh. As a mother, we do the best we can. If others judge us, oh well. Moms shouldn't try to make other moms feel guilty about the decisions they make.

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  38. This is really brave and I applaud you for writing it. My personal experience is that I breastfed my daughter (though with supplemental formula) through 12 months and my son (2nd child) through only 4 months. I didn't have any milk and I was frantic about it, pumping like crazy, fenugreek, diet. I'd always thought those who didn't have enough milk weren't trying hard enough, frankly I'd been very judgmental. I didn't - you are right that I probably could have tried more avenues, dietary and otherwise. But my pediatrician said stop because I was just absolutely out of my mind about it. And of course my son now has a nut allergy and I'm convinced it's because of my failure to nurse to 12 months.
    Anyway, as an aside, my girls were so perky someone asked me once "who did your breasts?" - ahem. Now, not so much. Golf balls in tube socks. I ASPIRE to tennis balls in tube socks! I share your judgment of that reason.
    xoxo

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  39. Great post! I nursed my daughter for over a year. Now I don't feel guilty when I buy Gucci loafers and Sheridan French tunics because I saved us a wad by not using formula. I also have to say that using a lactation consultant in the early days was the best move that I made. She helped tremendously.

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  40. Sheridan, I am so glad you are posting on this vital subject. Breastfeeding in the United States has reached tragically low levels in comparison to other countries, and we as mothers need to speak up and demand change. According to the CDC (Breastfeeding Report Card, cdc.gov), 74% of new mothers attempt to breastfeed, 44% are breastfeeding by 6 months, and only 23% are breastfeeding by 1 year. The rates for exclusive breastfeeding are much lower, for example only 32% of mothers are exclusively breastfeeding by 3 months. In many southern states, less than 50% of new mothers even attempt to breastfeed.

    The key point is this is NOT about judgement, guilt, or winning mother of the year for exclusively breastfeeding until your child is 10 years old. The point is the most mothers TRY breastfeeding, and inevitably end up giving up due to lack of medical, educational, and social support. The CDC just released a report that only 4% of hospitals are considered breastfeeding friendly, only 14% actually have a breastfeeding plan, and 80% give newborns formula when NOT MEDICALLY NECESSARY. Sorry for all the statistics, but that last one just blew my mind.

    I encourage everyone here to read our Surgeon General's "Call to Action to Support Breastfeeding", and am including one of the most important quotes from the introduction, one that I feel sums up the spirit of your post.

    http://www.surgeongeneral.gov/topics/breastfeeding/calltoactiontosupportbreastfeeding.pdf

    "I have issued this Call to Action because the time has come to set forth the important roles and
    responsibilities of clinicians, employers, communities, researchers, and government leaders
    and to urge us all to take on a commitment to enable mothers to meet their personal goals for
    breastfeeding. Mothers are acutely aware of and devoted to their responsibilities when it comes
    to feeding their children, but the responsibilities of others must be identified so that all mothers
    can obtain the information, help, and support they deserve when they breastfeed their infants."

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  41. Sheridan, what a great post! I do not have any of my own children yet but I am one of ten children and my mummy breast fed all of us. As you can imagine she is also passionate about this topic and therefore I forwarded her the link so she could read it. She loved it.

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  42. Found your blog just recently--I love this post! As Crossfitters/Paleo eaters, my husband and I wonder how our children's lives will evolve in our sugar-coated world. I absolutely refuse to expose our kids to sugar at a young age (or any ideally!). It's so disheartening to me that you couldn't find a formula without an added sweetener. I am hopeful that continuing with my Paleo diet post-pregnancy will be conducive to breastfeeding for a year. My midwife friend recommended I should add clean grains to my diet while pregnant to prevent ketosis. I'd be interested to know if you stayed 100% paleo while pregnant. Keep these great posts coming!

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  43. I agree that breastfeeding is incredibly important and I frankly find it alarming how few women in the US breastfeed. I am still happily breastfeeding my 16 month old son with no particular end date planned yet. I do find it a tad judgmental for you to say that it disgusts you when women don't breastfeed because of what it might do to their body. Pregnancy is actually what changes the shape of your breasts, not breastfeeding, as they change to prepare for breastfeeding regardless of whether you actually do.

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  44. Loved this! Thank you for putting the time and effort into this very important post! I LOVED breastfeeding and am so blessed that I was able to do so. It's actually one of the things I'm looking forward to the most with baby #2. That one-on-one time spent with your precious child is so special and something I'll remember forever.

    I'd also like to give a quick note of encouragement to some other to-be moms out there who may be concerned about their milk supply. I had a breast reduction (a real one where they have to sever and re-attach the milk ducts) when I was 20 years old, and I was beyond concerned about my ability to produce milk. However, I was somehow able to breastfeed for an entire year (probably more had I chosen to do so)! I was so nervous about my ability to produce that I preemptively felt like a bad mom before I even tried. One of the best pieces of advice I got from a less fortunate friend is that you haven't failed at motherhood just because you can't produce milk. Her son was 100% formula fed and is a perfectly happy, healthy baby boy. I'm beyond happy and relieved that I was able to feed my daughter myself, but I'm glad I had someone there to tell me that it was OK if I couldn't.

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  45. Thank you for this post and Thank you for your blog! You are such an inspiration! You are reason why I bought Robb Wolfs/; Paleo book and it has seriously changed my life! And as far as this post, I am nowhere near being a mother of my own but I'm an Au Pair for the first time in Europe which has made me think about the possible future choices I may make one day and it’s nice reading the opinions of women like yourself that are so well written.

    Thank you for your honestly and insight and thank you for making fabulous clothes :)

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  46. For those who have had trouble with getting enough supply, I also had a very difficult time with my first son and therefore only lasted 3months. BUT my second time around I supplied my son, my friend's son(she is a lawyer and had to return early to work), my niece who had a premie, and still had a ton frozen. After feeding my son I pumped 65 oz. a day. I don't remember exactly how long I did that but under 6 months. The hospital I work at actually had an enormous supply or I would have donated some there too. My second time I went to only 15 months because my son didn't want to anymore. I feel like it only gets easier after 3 months for those who like me the first time couldn't imagine doing it any longer.

    I would love to share all the tricks I came up with but I would be writing book so I will just mention a few very important things. You must trick your breast immediately into thinking you just had multiple births. Pump after you feed, so feedback tells them make more next time because you run them dry each time. I cannot stress how important it is to do this the first week after getting your milk in because it sets the standard. Nurses and le leche have advised my friends against it because they don't want you to become engorged and quit because of pain. But my friend called me knowing what i did and were able to all have surpluses too! Your breasts are not forgiving so you can't skip even one feeding without loosing some production, that you cannot get back. Also drinking water is a must.

    I must say it is much more important for a mother to be emotionally sound than to breastfeed so for those who feel like breastfeeding compromised that, I have the upmost respect for them quitting. On the other hand the mother that chooses not give her child one of the most wonderful gifts possible simply because she doesn't want her looks to change should think twice about having children.

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  47. GREAT post! One of my biggest regrets as a Mom is that breast-feeding did not work for me. I tried SO VERY diligently...I took classes, read books, bought pumps, endured the searing nipple pain and blisters, hired a lactation consultant. With my oldest, I never made milk. My MIL was diagnosed with terminal cancer the day he was born and my doctor said it was from the stress and my low weight at the time. Nonetheless, I still tried for 4 weeks and my baby was starving. I felt like a failure. The pediatrician finally told my husband to make me understand that I HAD to give Will formula.

    So, with baby #2, I gained more weight, drank tons of H2o, ate super healthy etc. He was born tongue tied (he had to have surgery for it later), and he was/is allergic to wheat, gluten, dairy and soy. His diapers were filled with blood, he would not gain weight. He was failure to thrive and the docs forced me to put him on Neocate (which I just checked and the number 1 ingredient is corn syrup-UGH! ). Oh, it makes me cringe. He is my little blessing with the biggest health issues. I was a new-ish and scared Mom but I am educated (I have a Ph.D). However, I was so panicked that I did what these docs told me to do.

    The third time around we adopted a 10 month old baby from China...so no breast feeding there.

    Like I said, this is one of my biggest failures as a Mom and I just wish I knew then what I know now. Because now I would probably have had more options (maybe not). I think this is good for people to think through all the possible problems/issues beforehand. Because when one arises it is easy to become alarmed and throw in the towel too soon. I often wonder if we did that.

    So, you are doing a great service here by educating people.

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  48. Educating is key. I was in New York City recently, and was so pleased to see huge advertisements at bus stops encouraging breastfeeding. Huge difference from 5 years ago, when I had my first child, and people thought I was nuts for even wanting to nurse my baby. I have been a mother since age 22, and have adored breastfeeding. My first child had a really difficult time latching, it took an entire week to get it straight. And, let me tell you, all the pain I was in because of a crazy, intervention-loaded birth, and 3rd degree laceration, it was extremely uncomfortable. But, we made it through, and he nursed until he was three! I do believe everyone has the right to choose, and the right to decide what works best, but also that every woman should at least try- the very first drops of colostrum-rich milk are precious, sacred, and are worth more than gold!
    As for ladies who don't want their tatas heading south because of a baby latching on them, they should be resigned to the fact that they will eventually sag with nature's gravitational pull anyway! And, if that's the case, they probably have committed to the idea of having augmentation done, regardless, and should therefore breastfeed regardless!
    On the subject of politics, and I am a very liberal person, if we spent less Welfare billions$ on bottles and formula, there would be a lot more $ in the system.
    So, that's my 2 cents. I really applaud you for putting this kind of article out there, on a glamorous site like yours. You rock!

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  49. I loved this post. I read it when you posted it, and now that I have a 4 week old, I really appreciate it. I am lucky that I have had a relative easy time breastfeeding, but I never knew how overwhelming it can be. This post was reassurance that I am doing what is best for my baby. Thank you for bringing attention to this issue!

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  50. This is such a beautiful post! I can definitely relate to your story--I had to leave my little girl at 8 months to go to the UK for my job... I cried and cried and cried. I had nursed her for the first full 8 months with the exception of during the work day (from 12 weeks til 8 months where I was able to pump during work in a privacy room). I was gone for 7 days. Just 7. When I came back she would not latch... I would literally come out of her nursery sobbing. But, I was bound and determined to get to 1 year. Despite not being able to physically nurse anymore -- which I completely 100% agree with you-- is just not the same, I pumped until 13 months. It breaks my heart when I hear women say they won't nurse or don't want to nurse... it is by far the most amazing bond you can have with your baby. I wouldn't trade it for anything!

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  51. great post, anyone who advocates for better child nutrition is A-ok in my book!

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  52. This was a great post. I think it is interesting that some people found it judgmental, as you weren't judgmental at all. You never said anything bad about moms who can't supply the milk or can't breastfeed or adopt or dry up. You are only saying that breast fed is best and how can it not be? How can anyone look at a formula can ingredient list and think, oh yes, I want my child to have this over my able bodied breast? Kudos to you for post. If someone doesn't like it, then don't read it. :) Even if you were judging, its your opinion, which you are entitled to. Also, I would love to hear more about paleo during pregnancy and breastfeeding as well as homebirth. I am due in May and would love to do a homebirth but I just don't know what to be reading and doing! Do you ever do direct emails? thanks!

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