I just wanted to say thank you for such an outstandingly positive response to my post/novel on The Importance of Breastfeeding.
So there is absolutely no confusion on surrogacy or adoption which a handful of you mentioned, my mother carried a child for her sister, so I have experienced surrogacy and all it entails. That is why I began the post by saying that there are always circumstances that will prevent women from breastfeeding.
To those who disagreed with me, it was very informative to hear your experiences as well. Thank you for sharing, particularly those who had the courage to put their name with their post and not hide behind Anonymous. It is very hard to stand up for what you believe in, especially when you know others have a differing view.
Aside from the one bit where I was very frank with my opinion and openly acknowledged I was not going to sugar coat it, my goal was to share the knowledge I have learned, my personal experiences, challenges and guilt, and how I am continually adjusting what I do as a mother based on this, as well as to encourage those choosing not to breastfeed - those that have the choice - to look at a their decision in a different light. I appreciate those who recognized that; the vast majority of you did.
To hear that you felt it was encouraging, refreshing, well-written, informative, admirable, brave, that you loved seeing new facts and information, reading about the diet/breastfeeding connection - wow. Thank you, truly. I feel like one commenter, Kay, really hit the nail on the head:
"It seems that some of the more agitated commenters missed your own humble admission, which, for me, was the center of your essay --- specifically, that your lifestyle choices (a limited diet/exercise routine with baby one; and a job opportunity with baby two) are sources of guilt for you, and that you wish you had reached your own goals of breastfeeding each little one for a solid year. I think too many of us read your entry too quickly -- and perhaps the passionate tone and scholarly bent of your essay somewhat eclipsed the personal experiences that you shared...which spoke, w/transparency, of disappointment and self-judgment..."
Thank you, Kay, for really taking in every word.
The word judgmental is used very loosely these days. I do not agree with parents who feed their children junk food all the time. That is their choice, and I do not have to support it. That is not being judgmental, and in all honesty if they feel judged by someone disagreeing, so be it. No one can MAKE YOU feel a certain way - that gives others way too much power over you. Too many people are afraid to share their views these days, particularly on so-called "hot topics," for fear of what others may think. This goes for social issues such as breastfeeding, how we eat, vaccinations, and into deeper areas such as religion and politics. In my opinion, silencing your voice rather than speaking out for what you believe in is the saddest fate of all, and to tell you the truth, I would rather be called judgmental any day than be mute.
Until the next hot topic...